Love is Selfless
What is love?
This is one of those classic questions to which there seems to be infinite answers for. I have one of my own:
Love is putting someone else’s needs above your own.
It’s simple really. It all comes down to being completely selfless. When you love someone you do things you don’t necessarily want to do all the time but you do it because you care. You do it because you would do anything to see that person smile.
Sure, there are different levels of love. My love for my children is a bit different then the love I would have for my husband. It doesn’t make a difference though because it’s all selfless. This is why I think a selfish person probably has a hard time learning how to ever truly love someone.
The bible has this commandment down pat. “But the greatest of these is love” He says. It’s true. It’s the one thing we are all called to do on a daily basis. The bible even spells out what love looks like including “It is not self-seeking.”
As I’ve recently come out of a very broken marriage this makes a lot of sense to me. I can recall doing so many things I didn’t want to do but I did them anyway because I thought I should.
I truly believe, as I look back, he doesn’t know what it means to love someone. People throw around this love word far too much. If you tell someone you love them or you think you do it should be said because you really mean it. It should not be said because you think about that person all the time, or because you just want to be around them, or just because they make you smile. Sure those things are important but that’s not love.
Deep love comes from a place inside of you that would cause you to literally give your life for that person. Deep love would force you to give your last piece of food so that THEY wouldn’t go hungry. Deep love forces you to stay up all night when the other person is sick just so you can make sure they don’t stop breathing. Deep love insists that you be patient with the other person and of course always honest. Deep love allows you to rejoice in their triumphs and morn with them on their bad days.
But again, love can mean so many different things…all of those things though come down to one thing: selflessness.
Being a mommy is the most selfless task I’ve ever had to undertake. Being a mommy has forced a deep understanding of what true love means. That’s why when I hear those heart wrenching stories about parents leaving their babies I can’t comprehend it. Sure, its not easy waking up at 3am to feed a baby in the middle of the night. Ask anyone and Im sure they will not tell you this is most favorite thing in the world but as mommy’s, we do it.
This world definitely needs more people who understand this concept. If you find someone who gets what it means to love, don’t let them go as this is seemingly more rare than one would believe!