Newton’s Third Law: For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.
It’s science people!
It’s science that applies to life too. In life anytime you do something it is going to have an effect on something or someone else. If you tell someone you love them, you can expect some type of reaction from the other person. If you steal, you will eventually get caught and you will likely end up in jail. If you give your kids’ lollipops before bed then they may stay awake for another two hours! These actions and their consequences go together. If one is not taught this concept at a young age, then they will surely be hit with a reality check once they enter in to the real world. Your job doesn’t care why you are 20 minutes late EVERY single day, the consequences of that could be a write up, or even lead to your firing! You cheat on your spouse and they find out? Consequences? Your spouse may choose to leave you. You tell a lie to someone you love… the consequences are they won’t trust you (and probably anyone else they love for a long time). It seems pretty simple. That is until you are the one who must face the consequences.
Lord knows I have made my fair share of mistakes and yes, I have to live with the consequences of my actions.
I married the wrong man and I certainly feel the consequences of that action.
I have done some things that have caused friends or people to talk negatively about me. That’s the consequences for my action.
I own my consequences, because I owned the actions that led to them.
I realize the harsh reality of the packaged nature of actions and consequences.
I just wish other grown adults understood this concept also. Life doesn’t just hand you things, you must work (hard) for them. For someone who wasn’t taught this as a child, for someone whose parents may have taken on their children’s consequences and fixed the problems that resulted from their actions for them… how is that child ever going to learn for themselves?
How can someone who has never had to take the consequences of their actions and face them head on and deal with them, ever going to make it successfully through life?
I know I don’t have all the answers. What I do know though is the reality of having to take on the consequences of my actions. I know, all too well, the suffering from having to take on the consequences of someone else’s actions. What I can tell you, in hope that it offers you hope is that all of it has made me a stronger person. It has made me a survivor. It has helped me to realize that if I can get through this, then I certainly can handle whatever else comes my way. When the going gets tough I lean on my God to help me. Because if God is within me I cannot fail.
So while I don’t like to punish my kids, it’s important for them to learn there are consequences for everything they do. The world we live in today can be cruel and they need to be prepared. Everyone makes mistakes. We must work hard to do our best. We must be prepared to face the consequences of our actions, both good and bad. We must strive to live a life where we only face positive consequences and know that if we do not the outcome most certainly will not be positive.