When YOU are “The One”

I have gone years thinking and hoping and wishing upon a star to find ‘the one.’ all to be completely and utterly disappointed in men… and most recently myself.

I must say my dating experience these last 4 years has been quite all over the place. Newly single, I did what a lot of women in my position do – which was go boy crazy. I “dated” and I use that term loosely, a lot. Until I hurt myself more than I needed to, coming out of a bad marriage. So then I stopped. I stopped seeing and talking to potential guys in a romantic way at all. I abstained from men altogether. Which was one of the best decisions I have made post-divorce. That was a time in my life I needed to adjust my focus and concentrate on finding myself again. I needed space to learn who I was and am meant to be.

But after some time had passed and I was feeling really great I decided to check back into that dating life but with a new perspective.

I have gone a couple dates with a couple great men… some questionable, but some great. Honestly, I was surprised to find that there are still some good ones out there. Don’t get me wrong though, they are VERY few.

Turns out I still wasn’t finding what I wanted.

Because what I want more than anything is to be completely and totally independent. I’m not looking for a guy to complete me. I want to be complete and whole all by myself. I don’t need the mushy gushy stuff as much as I thought I once did.

I have so much I want to get done and accomplish on my own.

I guess if ‘the one’ comes along I might feel differently but for now, I can honestly say I’m OK being single. I have what I need. And I don’t want to waste anyone else’s time as much as I really don’t want to waste mine.

So cheers to me on becoming a damn girl boss! Cheers to being Ms. Independent. Because honestly, after going back and forth over wanting a boyfriend and then wanting to be alone and then really wanting the relationship to end all relationships… right now is right where I’m meant to be. This is the part of my life where I create what I want out of life, where I focus on my health, bettering my family, and building a life for us we can be proud of.

Ladies… The right man will compliment your life not complete it… you only need you for that.

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  1. I had the same experience. It doesn’t work until you find yourself first. I’m still learning and growing all the time but it took a long time before I was ready for something serious.

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